Woman on the Remake: Three Questions to Ask Yourself
"We are at a place of initiation, the crossroad of choice that will determine if we travel together into a higher way of being or plummet back into the darkness to continue searching for the light." - Sherri Mitchell (from her book: Sacred Instructions - Indigenous Wisdom for Living Spirit-Based Change)
When was the last time you rested your head against the headrest in your car? Try it sometime. Yes, while you are driving. Soften into the seat and let your head fall back those few inches to meet the headrest. Keep it there. Take a breath. After all, this is what the headrest is for, right?
Notice what happens when you do this. Take another breath. Feel the seat beneath you. The one you sit in every day. The one you have been sitting in for years perhaps. Notice the contours, the material, the plushness, and how it has shaped itself to your body. The seat knows you very well but how well do you know your seat? Perhaps it is time to say hello to this steady, faithful companion. Can you feel the seat holding you? Holding all of you. Your body, your thoughts, your emotions. Everything that has ever happened to you. Everything that you have ever dreamed of. All of it right here in this seat.
Stay here. Take another breath. Let go of your perpetual forward lean and sink back into the place where you are right now. Take it in with all of your senses. Notice everything.
Let your eyes drop back and into their rightful place in your eye sockets and see how your vision expands. The periphery opens up and your perspective shifts to a new center point which is where you actually are. From this center point, with all the senses engaged, you may notice that time begins to soften, yielding itself to space and you are at the center. The world seems to come to you and you are poised to meet it from a place of awareness, connection, power. You have stepped into your sovereignty.
One of the key discernment points for any woman on the remake is to know that our remake is not a to-do list. It is not a list of New Year's resolutions or goals to achieve. A remake is not an add-on or extension of the life we have lived thus far. It is not a make-over or a remodel. A remake is a change at our very foundation. A disruption of our habits of perception and a major shift in how we relate to ourselves and the world. It is choosing space over time. When you do this, space opens up in every aspect of your life. Space to breathe. Space to feel. Space to act. Space to be. This is what we mean by "Creating Space." It is not moving the furniture around so you can set up an altar in your living room so that someday you might have a meditation practice. It is the discovery that space is a choice you can make in any moment. It is about driving differently. Lean back, rest your head against the headrest. You are the altar.
~ Gwen Hendee
